Last summer was the first time I heard the term, FOMO, aka Fear Of Missing Out. Fear of missing out can take on many different forms. I remember one time I missed a young adult event in Philadelphia because I was gallivanting in New York City with my sister and cousin. It’s nights like those that I wish I had the gift of bilocation. My co-worker made a valid point when she said, “Jacinta, it’s not like you were at ShopRite or something, you were in New York City.” While her words rang true, I realized there was still an ache and a longing to always be a part of something (else) that ultimately robbed me of enjoying the present moment. That is the very root of F.O.M.O.
I had a friend in college once tell me that I held out on committing to plans until the best option came up. This led me to ask myself: Am I a person of commitment and integrity? Or am I utilitarian in my approach to making plans where I hold out until the BEST option comes up?
As a person who struggles with feeling like I miss out, I have come up with three solutions to battle the beast of FOMO:
- Prayer – As long as I am in tune with my prayer life and doing exactly what God wants me to be doing, then there is no reason to miss out on anything else. We should ultimately be sure that we do not want to miss out on our final destination, which is heaven. Be in tune with God’s will for your life. Let Him lead you and you can do no wrong.
- Commitment – Make plans and stick to them. Don’t flake out at the last second if something “better” comes along. Let your “yes” mean “yes” and your “no” mean “no.” Matthew 5:3-7
- Embrace– Make the most of your current situation. Instead of wishing you were at a better gathering, enjoy the present moment. Don’t let the fear of missing out on something “better” rob you of your present joy. It’s all about your attitude. Your attitude can make or break a situation.
Finally, I’ve learned that as long as I am doing God’s will, than that is where the real “party” is.